My last post on reflection got me thinking about my progress. But also got me thinking about telling others of our progress and how that might come across as bragging.
Which (because I tend to spiral – as we know) got me thinking about a conversation I had with a friend at the gym over the summer.
I told her about being content with where I am in my life at that moment.
I told her about how beautiful and fun our wedding was.
About my new workouts my husband put together for me. They challenge me and help me become a better version of myself. Healthy body, healthy mind, and all that.
About my commitment to getting up at 530 AM in order to work on my manuscript before my day job.
I told her about my trip to Denver for a book signing where I met most of my favorite authors all in one place. Where we talked about books and writing and reading and all the things. About how I talked with one of my favorite authors about being her beta reader, since she was in need of one. This was huge for me, to say the least!
Also huge was having my articles published in various publications in my new position.
All in all, I told my friend, it felt like everything was falling into place and setting me up for an eventful future.
After rambling next to the set of dumbbells about all that’s good in my life, I apologized.
I didn’t want her to think me an arrogant person, one who couldn’t stop bragging, so I apologized to save face and make sure she knew I was not full of myself.
She of course, being the nicest person on the planet – no seriously! – shushed me and reassured me that she was simply happy for me. That she needed to hear my good news because she had a few frustrations at the time, so she was happy for a positive distraction.
That’s when it hit me – why should I apologize and feel terrible about having good news? About being satisfied with my life? About feeling accomplished?
Yes we should always be considerate of others and what’s going on with them, but there’s no reason we shouldn’t brag on ourselves from time to time and share the good news with others. I mean, is it really satisfying if we can’t celebrate with friends?
And if you don’t feel like you can, are they really your friends?
Because true friends are happy for you when you’re happy. They lift you up when you’re down and mirror your joy when you’re high. They bask in your achievements as if they are their own.
And in sharing your positivity, you might be lifting that person up as well. Maybe they need to hear about your successes to liven up their day.
When my friend shushed me and reassured me of her happiness for me, I believed her.
We should all surround ourselves with these kinds of people, to build each other up, not tear each other down with our jealousy or feelings of inadequacy. Our first reaction to someone else’s good news should not be about us, about all the ways we’re lacking in comparison.
We should be able to share our good news, not hide it.
So if you take my advice from the last post and reflect on 2018, don’t be afraid to share your success stories with those around you. Be proud of yourself for your accomplishments. Be humble and gracious. Give thanks for those successes, but don’t apologize for them.
You deserve them.
You deserve rewards for your hard work that’s paid off, and you deserve to be able to celebrate, whether it’s with a bath, glass of wine, or by laughing and smiling about it to your friends mid-workout as you both catch your breath from shoulder presses.
Embrace your success and build upon it.